You have been taught, or educated to show anxiety in certain ways. How exactly did you learn this? The same way you have learned all things, by copying those around you, namely parents, siblings, extended family, teachers, television, babysitters and on and on.
Each time you came in contact with others, especially when you were young and forming habits, there was the potential to learn their ways.
Let's take a look at blushing as an example. This is not an easy thing to learn, yet children DO learn it by watching the significant people in their lives.
The process of blushing involves opening individual blood vessels in the face area while not opening others in the body. Some people learn to open the blood vessels in the neck along with those of the face, depending on what they were taught by example. With some, the ears are even involved.
The triggers that begin the process are also learned. Some families blush every time they speak. Others only blush when in front of groups, whether speaking or not. It's as individual as people.
There are may people who say that individuals cannot control the autonomic responses, for example heart rate, blood pressure, and constriction and dilation of blood vessels. But, anyone who blushes has done just that. They learned how and are able to do it, even when they most often wish they didn't!
It is learned by children and if a child is never exposed to blushing, will not be able to blush when grown up.
The great news out of this is that, if it's been learned, it can be changed. By learning some anxiety relieving methods and how to relax to a lovely level in self-hypnosis, this and many other irritating habits can be eliminated.
What Else Have You Learned?
If it's possible to learn to dilate blood vessels when blushing, what else have you learned to do that you have believed is out of your control.
- Most stage fright has been learned, and therefore can be changed.
- The way you express (or don't express) emotions has been learned.
- Your attitudes toward food, family members and authority have been learned.
- Some fears (flying, spiders, thunderstorms, etc.) have been learned.
- Habits, such as biting nails, poor sleep, eating when you're not hungry, etc.
- Even shyness has been learned.
When something has been learned, it becomes a habit. Habits are a necessary part of our life. How would you ever get through a day, if you had to think about everything that you did? You would be stuck at the four-year old level of thinking-your-way-through getting dressed, bringing a spoon to your mouth, tying shoes and all the other duties that adults simply perform as a habit. And you know how slow 4-year olds can be!
So, we need habits. But what can you do when you want to change a habit?
The sub-conscious mind is where habits are stored, so you must access the sub-conscious to make the change. And that is exactly what hypnosis is: accessing the sub-conscious mind.
Effects of Anxiety
The result of holding on to anxiety is an increase in adrenaline, a powerful hormone which can effect your intestines, eyes, bladder and bowels. It can also effect metabolic activities such as digestion and reproduction. Immune function can be altered and of course certain muscles being tensed can cause discomfort or pain.
Stress held in the body for long periods can cause illness and burnout conditions.
The great news is that anxiety can be lessened. It is possible to re-learn ways of responding and to choose healthier ways of meeting life's challenges. The use of self-hypnosis itself is very calming and very relaxing. Many people find that just going into self-hypnosis is enough to give some relief.
Once you have learned the process, then begin to give yourself suggestions for your specific anxiety.
It is very possible to use these methods in your own home with complete success.